Is it just giving, or is it something more?
There’s the old saying- ‘give a man a fish and feed him for a day;
teach a man to fish and feed him for a lifetime’.
That is true, but is there more to it than that?
What if he hates fish or runs out of fish in his pond? What then?
Have you really taught him anything?
Or have you wasted your time, and has he wasted his time, just prolonging
the inevitable fishlessness and the fight for his existence?
What if there is much more than just teaching someone to do something,
or enabling them to do it once you’re gone?
What if the whole point is to build a relationship?
A relationship that is mutually beneficial to you both- you teach him to fish, he teaches you to carve something. Or maybe he just teaches you to really love and how to open up to others in a new way and maybe he is an amazing person with the coolest background and he is so strong and neat, and, through the process of getting to know him, you learn more about the amazingness of him, and humanity in general. A relationship where he is your friend, where you can continue to help him build his fishing skills, live on more than just fishing, where he learns how to open up to you and the amazingness of your own story and humanity in general. A self-sustaining, lifelong investment that builds more than a fish-eating empire.
It builds a friendship.
It builds worth and value and esteem and respect and love.
It builds eternity.